Remember when you were younger, how many dreams and ideas you had for how you wanted your life to look ‘when you grew up’?

Most of us had dreams.

Some were big, some small, some changed as we got older.

Others stayed quietly tucked away in the background.

Life takes over and somehow dreams get nudged into the back corner of our minds. Between raising a family, relationships, aging parents, career and everything in between, that little girl that once sat with huge dreams and aspirations, feels like a scene in a movie.

Before we know it, we’ve spent decades looking after everyone else’s dreams while our needs slowly gather dust.

Somewhere along the way, we stopped asking ourselves what we wanted.

Then one day we wake up and realise we’re not entirely sure who we are anymore.

We’ve just been so busy taking care of everyone else that we haven’t stopped to ask what we want now.

The Dreams Didn’t Disappear

One of the biggest myths about midlife is that your best years are behind you.

Who decided that?

Who decided your opportunity has passed?

Who decided the second half of your life should be spent quietly sitting on the sidelines?

I certainly didn’t.

Every day I see women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond doing incredible things.

They’re starting businesses, writing books, changing careers, finding love, travelling, learning new skills, taking on new challenges and finding their confidence.

Most importantly, they’re finally giving themselves permission to become the woman they’ve always wanted to be.

My Own Midlife Pivot

At 50, I made one of the biggest decisions of my life.

I closed my gym after 13 years.

Let me tell you, it wasn’t an easy decision.

I loved my clients, I loved my staffing team, and I loved the community we had built together.

Walking away from something I’d poured so much of myself into was incredibly emotional.

However, deep down I knew something else was calling me.

I realised my true passion wasn’t simply helping women exercise.

My passion was helping women transform their lives.

That decision led me to where I am today, coaching women through perimenopause and midlife.

Looking back, I can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

The funny thing is, many people would have looked at that decision and thought I was crazy. After all, I was 50.

Shouldn’t I have been winding down?

Playing it safe?

Sticking with what I knew?

Not in my books!

Your Age Is Not The Problem

I think many women convince themselves they’re too old because it feels safer than admitting they’re scared.

Scared of failing, scared of being judged, scared of making the wrong decision, scared of disappointing others and scared of stepping outside their comfort zone.

The reality is that growth has always lived outside your comfort zone.

It did when you were 20, 30, and it still does today.

Afterall, diamonds are made under pressure!

Your age is not the thing holding you back.

Often, it’s just the story you’ve been telling yourself about your age.

The Second Half Of Your Life Is Still Your Life

This is something I feel incredibly passionate about.

The second half of your life is still your life.

It’s not your children’s, not your partner’s, not your employer’s, yours.

You still get to dream and grow.

You still get to change your mind and reinvent yourself.

You still get to choose who you want to become.

The woman you are today is not the same woman you were at 20.

Nor should she be.

You’ve lived so much life since then. Learned so much, grown a stack load, probably been a little hurt along the way too and lost some loved ones.

These all make up the chapters of our lives.

So, your dreams may look different now, and that’s okay.

The question is not whether your dreams have changed.

The question is whether you’ve stopped giving yourself permission to have them.

So Where To From Here?

Perhaps it’s time to ask yourself a few questions.

Who do I want to be?

What do I want my life to look like?

What matters most to me now?

What have I been putting off?

What would I do if fear wasn’t part of the equation?

You don’t need all the answers today.

You simply need to start asking the questions.

Because the second half of your life is still your life.

And there is still so much living left to do.

 

If you’re struggling to figure out who you are today, what you want, or where you want to go next, I’d love to help you explore what’s possible.

👉 Book a Strategy Session and we can have a chat:
https://oncehub.com/strategycallwithterri

And if you know a woman who needs this reminder, please share this with her. 💜

• Coach Terri

 

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